Tomorrow is one of the most important dates in the calendar... it was on 20th October 2005 that Elaine and I went on what was effectively our first “date”. Seven years later and here I am sitting at the computer, proudly wearing the wedding ring she gave me just over four years ago, knowing that every day starts and ends with the special person it took me over forty years to find...
It was so difficult for our relationship to even start, let alone develop and although the memories might fade ever-so-slightly with the passage of time, we never forget and occasionally take the time to reminisce... and to wonder how we overcame so many obstacles to reach where we are today.
There’s no way I would ever glorify the fact that our friendship blossomed from two unhappy marriages though... because children were involved. From a position of relative maturity, the situation was hard enough; we made tough choices with far-reaching consequences and keeping a dignified, protective silence in the wake of the scorned backlash has meant that there is still a gap in Elaine’s life that may now never be filled.
Apparently we had been “having an affair” for a year... not true... not even half true. We made the decision to spend our lives together in less than six months, having actually met only eight times... yes... that unhappy...
Anyway, in the end, Elaine came to be with me not once, but twice; I don’t know from where she gained the courage, but I will be forever grateful. She knew that basically all I had to offer was sitting in front of her... and to me, it didn’t seem like much. I wasn’t wealthy (understatement), but what Elaine really wanted, money couldn’t buy... well, she has my friendship, my trust, my respect and my love... and she always will.
Someone very important to me once said you should always tell those you love, exactly how you feel because... well... you just never know... so... Elaine, thank you for wanting me and believing in me. I love you darling xxx
All my own work... almost.